This won't be easy. There's so little that goes right at your job, that if there's ever any credit to take, you want to grab it -- fast. But that doesn't mean that you can't give a co-worker praise for something that went badly wrong. "Great work, Tiffany," you might say. "If you hadn't completely messed up that big order, I never would have had the chance to jump in and save the day."
If that isn't charismatic, I don't know what is.
Remarkably charismatic people are positive people. They "choose their words." As Haden writes, "you don't have to go to a meeting; you get to go meet with other people. You don't have to create a presentation for a new client; you get to share cool stuff with other people."
See the difference? Didn't think you would. How's this for an example: "The boss didn't have to fire me; the boss jumped on the opportunity to cut out a malignant tumor in the otherwise healthy corporate corpus."
Now that's cool.
One of the most difficult habits to emulate will surely be the way charismatic people "don't discuss the failings of others." That's right! No more gossip. No more hiring private detectives to dig up dirt on your co-workers. No more hiding cameras in the boss' bathroom.
And how will you fill the endless gossip-free hours now available to you? Well, remarkably charismatic people "readily admit their failures." That one habit should keep you busy until security comes to drag you out of your cubical and toss you onto the street.
It may seem like being summarily fired will not enhance your ability to dazzle others with your personality, but look on the bright side -- you'll be the most charismatic person in line at the unemployment office.
Bob Goldman was an advertising executive at a Fortune 500 company, but he finally wised up and opened Bob Goldman Financial Planning in Sausalito, California. He offers a virtual shoulder to cry on at email@example.com. To find out more about Bob Goldman, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate web page at www.creators.com.
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