It’s been our experience that couples have a high probability of having a successful marriage if they can agree in detail on four things before they walk down the aisle: money, religion, kids, and in-laws. When it comes to money find out who is the spender and who’s the saver. Get all your cards out on the table, no secrets allowed, and construct a game plan for your finances. You don’t want to get married only to wake up to a bum who’s irresponsible, won’t work, and spends everything they make!

Next, be in agreement on religion. Statistically speaking, two people from the same faith have a much better chance of making a marriage work. With kids, the big question is do you want them or not? If so, how many and when? Are you going to let them run around like wild Indians, or are you going to make them behave? And when it comes to your future in-laws you really need to learn what you’re getting into. What are they really like, and where are the boundaries when it comes to their influence in your lives?

Everyone has a past and opinions, and all of these issues should be talked about, dealt with, and agreed upon before the rings go on the fingers. Otherwise, you’re liable to get yourselves into a real mess! --Dave